Trends and habits are KILLING you softly!

Human beings are not aware of why the results in their life are happening, how sad is that?

Ever wonder why you go through periods of a day or week or month, where you really feel worn out, pessimistic, defenceless or a victim of life? C’mon, every single person does and it seems to be the white elephant in the room as to how we change that.

All the scriptures and inspirational books that people like the Dalai Lama say that ‘life is NOT meant to be hard', so why do we keep making it so.

What I have found to be true is that it is US, ME or YOU that make it hard, not life! Life goes on with or without us, which is a really humbling fact to consider. The trees will still blow in the wind, the traffic lights will still change every 30-60 sec, babies will still be born, the season will still change, waves in the ocean will keep rolling in.

The only thing we have control of in this life is how we react or respond to what happens to us.

Problem Mindset:  Why is success or progress so bloody hard? Is it because of the economy?
Solution Strategy:  Every result in my life is MY creation, so if I am not happy with the results, change
the actions that cause the results – I have that power and RESPONSIBILITY!

How cool is that, in every instant of every day, I get to choose what I want and how I want it. Now while this sounds great in many ways, it is also a great responsibility and with the pace of life today, it can be seen as a burden.

It doesn’t have to be, let it be a joy and when it becomes hard or you make a mistake or you go to the “dark place”, remind yourself that you are human and get back to the “light”. Make your life one of consciousness, one of presence and you will be amazed at the opportunities you will notice.

So choose, take control and realise how often your “habitual” way of responding is disempowering you.

For example when someone “rejects” you in a sales call or a business pitch or an initiative you need someone’s support on, do NOT react like this:

• Sook internally or externally
• Give up and move on to the next project
• Speak with sarcasm or negativity
• Feel as if you are not good enough

This is what you did when you were 3, 4 or 5 years old! You got supported or comforted when you did this as a child and hence it has now become your trend, habit or default position when ‘x’ event happens.

As a responsible, evolved and successful human being, when someone “rejects” you in a sales call or a business pitch or an initiative you need someone’s support on, react or consider this:

• Thank you for the feedback, what could have I done better?
• Yes, now I am one step closer to the YES I need
• What I did great in that presentation was …
• This opportunity is terrific but that person is just not ready for it. I wonder who is ready for this awesome opportunity?

Break the cycle NOW and choose your response. Break the old habits that are keeping you in the same place. YOU CAN DO IT and if you cannot do it for yourself, do it for the future generation as they need role models like you!

With gratitude and sincerity

Trent